Saturday, October 22, 2016

Feeling Good and Forming Good Life Habits

If you wish to say “Doctor, you’re fired!”, you must feel good about your health, and, more importantly, feeling good about yourself.

To do just that, you may have to ask yourself the following questions:

What are the things I desire most in my life?
Why are they important to me?

In addition to the basic human need for food, clothing, and shelter, there are some basics in life, which are fundamental to the art of living well.


Feeling Good About Oneself

In life, there are generally three things that most people want and desire: abundant wealth; good health; happy relationships.

Indeed, they become the life goals of many. Success in their pursuit of these goals makes them feel good about themselves, not to mention satisfying their basic need to feel self-important.

But to feel good about yourself, you must also form good life habits.

Good Life Habits

Living is about processing experiences in life. Living life to the fullest is contingent on how you process your experiences, which are the consequences of your choices in life, rather than due to your circumstances. Good life choices stem from good life habits. Your habits, good or bad, control you more than anything else does, in particular, your thinking mind. Given that your life is the sum of your thoughts, forming good life habits is critical because you tend to become a slave to your habits, once they are formed.

Good life habits include: living in the present moment; developing body and mind awareness; embracing right conduct and positive thinking. They may directly or indirectly affect your lifestyle, and hence your diet and your health.

According to Aristotle, we are what we repeatedly do; therefore, excellence is also a habit that can be cultivated.

Bottom line: cultivate good life habits to live a meaningful and purposeful life; holistic living can help you keep your doctor away.

The Book of Life and Living (2nd edition) is a 200-page book that explains what true wisdom is: it is a process of asking meaningful questions and getting relevant answers from them to empower your mind to think differently. After all, life has to do with thinking -- how you think, how you react to your life experiences, and how you process and internalize them to become your memories. The brain is a complex organ. The book explains in simple layman language how the mind works, and how you may weave the fabrics of your realities acquired from your life experiences encountered.

To get the Amazon Kindle version of The Book of Life and Living, click here; to get the paperback edition, click here

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Wisdom in Living, and Books by Stephen Lau.

Stephen Lau

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Thursday, October 20, 2016

How to Live Your Life in Your Senior Years

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Your Golden Years and Santa Claus explains the wisdom of living in the present, the wisdom of letting go, and the wisdom of not picking and choosing -- they are the essentials for happy and successful aging in the golden years. Learn how to think and act like Santa Claus in your golden years.

Your future is always unknown and unknowable, but it is your readiness to get new information and to use your new experience to reassess your current situation that provides a light at the end of the tunnel.

Wake up from your nightmare and live a life that you rightly deserve in your golden years.

Growing older sucks. The alternative is to die younger.

So, make the best and the most of your remaining years; turn them into the golden years of your life in spite of any frailty and adversity you may be facing. Remember, life is a task-master: it teaches you not only how to survive in any challenging circumstance but also how to live as if everything is a miracle, especially in your golden years.

Use Santa Claus as your role model to start believing in yourself, developing the right mindset of successful aging, and acting appropriately and positively. Santa Claus may not be a magic-bullet solution to all your life problems and challenges, but he certainly may open unexpected doors for you in your golden years.

Stephen Lau
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Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Live As If Everything Is A Miracle

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As If Everything Is A Miracle: This 125-page book is about the wisdom in living as if everything is a miracle, just as Albert Einstein once said: "There are only two ways to live your life. One is to live as if nothing is a miracle. The other is to live as if everything is a miracle."

This 125-page book is about the wisdom to rethink your mind, renew your body, and reconnect your soul to realign your being for total wellness and well-being to live stress-free as if everything is a miracle.

In this day and age, living in different phases of life is challenging. For one thing, in this world of technology and information, many of us are addicted to speed, which seems like a prerequisite for success in career and in many others facets of life. As a result, stress is unduly created, which may lead to toxic actions, reactions, thoughts and emotions. Consciously and subconsciously we have created for ourselves a world in which our bodies, our minds, and souls have become toxic and we live as if nothing is a miracle.

To do just the opposite—living as if everything is a miracle—we have to renew the mind, renew the body, and reconnect the soul, and realign the being so that we know who we really are, instead of who we "think" we are.

Believe in yourself: believe that you can be a better, happier, and healthier you. Believe that you can be a centenarian, if you choose to. The only hurdle is stress in contemporary living. Learn how to overcome your stress by letting go your ego-self. No Ego No Stress!

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Take Care of Your Vision Health

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“Vision Self-Healing Self-Help" is a 147-page book on vision health based on the author's own experience of vision impairment due to his myasthenia gravis, which is an autoimmune disease affecting eye muscles and thus vision.

The book is also based on the Bates Method of vision improvement through eye exercises, as well as body, mind, and eye relaxation.

This book covers various types of eye disorders, including macular degeneration, glaucoma, and cataracts, among others. It also includes vision nutrition.

Improve your eyesight through awareness of good vision habits, such as blinking, shifting, eye palming, and soft vision, among others. It is never too late to improve your vision and to have better eyesight. This is a holistic approach to better vision.

Stephen Lau
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Monday, October 17, 2016

Exercise for the Elderly

Exercise for the elderly is especially important. Do not stop exercising just because you think you are getting older; instead, exercise more as you grow older. The more you exercise, the less likely you are going to see your doctor.

Exercise is an ageless activity that should be continued throughout one’s lifespan. 

Exercise detoxifies the body, and body detox holds the key to holistic health and wellness. Exercise not only stimulates blood circulation and the movement of lymphatic fluids, but also promotes the reduction of fat reserves, thereby instrumental in facilitating the removal of toxins stored in the body. Low-impact aerobic exercise, such as jumping rope or a bouncer, significantly improves the body’s circulation to benefit detoxification. 

Exercise helps weight loss. For those who have accumulated extra pounds over the decades, exercise is especially important for weight loss and weight control. Weight loss does not happen unless you burn more calories than you consume. There is no shortcut when it comes to weight loss. Eating less may not help you lose weight over the long haul. For one thing, a low-calorie diet may not satisfy your hunger for food; ironically enough, it may even put you on binge eating later on, and thus causing weight gain instead of weight loss. For another, changing a diet too drastically may adversely affect the body metabolism, leading to yo-yo weight loss and weight gain. Therefore, the best way to lose weight is through exercise, which burns calories. It is no exception for the elderly.

As you become more advanced in age, you will continue to lose muscle mass. The good news is that exercise may induce building muscle mass. Mass muscle mass not only maintains your body shape, but also helps you lose weight. The more muscles you have, the more calories you will burn, even while you sleep. To keep body shape, you must exercise your body.

The bottom line: Exercise incessantly throughout your lifetime; it is never too late to start exercising. Remember, exercise for the elderly is as important as exercise for the young. 

The Oriental exercises for the elderly 

If you think you have neither the endurance nor the strength to exercise, th
en go for qi gongtai chi, or yoga; these Oriental exercises focus on gentle natural movements accompanied by optimum breathing to benefit both the body and the mind.

Qi Gong is a set of self-healing exercises designed to balance your qi (internal life energy), bringing you back into harmony with Nature. These exercises incorporate your posturemovementbreathingmeditation and visualization to move oxygen and nutrients from your blood to organs and tissues. Distress and anxiety are dispelled during meditation; positive thinking with great confidence is affirmed; and concentration is emphasized. Through qi gong, you gain control of your body and mind, thereby instrumental in stimulating the circulation of your blood and qi for optimum health.

Yoga is another Oriental exercise that has been practiced for thousands of years, based on ancient theories, observations, and principles about the connection between the mind and the body. The intrinsic benefits of yoga have been proven by modern medicine. Yoga not only provides you with the most practical approach to attaining a high level of physical fitness, but also stabilizes your emotions and elevates your mental attitudes. In other words, Yoga unites your mind, your body, and your spirit. Essentially, it is a holistic approach to your well-being. Through awareness of your body’s posture, alignment, and patterns of movement, Yoga is therapeutic in that it helps your body find true harmony, thereby healing the body and the mind.

Tai Chi is all about movements to circulate your body invisible energy called qi. Smooth circulation of qi energy ensures a healthy body. Stagnant and blocked qi energy causes all sorts of chronic disease. Tai Chi is an ancient exercise that has been practiced for thousands of years as an effective alternative healing for the body and the mind. By strengthening the immune system, Tai Chi can improve your chronic disease slowly but steadily. More importantly, it can relieve your stress and calm your nerves.

Flexibility stretch exercise

Stretch exercise aims at improving your flexibility in order to extend the range of movement of your joints so that you can perform everyday activities with minimum effort and maximum effect. Flexibility is a great asset to your overall health and fitness, especially if you are a senior:

Stretch exercise relieves muscular stress and mental tension, both of which result in toxicity that may cause lethargy.

Flexibility reduces the risk of lower back pain. Flexibility stretching enhances the quality of the protective lubricant for optimum joint movement, the decline of which is the major cause of arthritic conditions. Also, increased lumbar and pelvic movements reduce the risk of lower back pain.

Flexibility training encourages postural balance and awareness, which are important to overall well-being.

Improved joint strength reduces the degeneration of joint structures in the body, which may lead to adverse arthritic conditions.

With improved physical performance, there will be less tissue resistance, which decreases the chance of injury during movements.

Flexibility exercises, through stretching, improve neuromuscular coordination, that is, the reduction of time taken for messages to go from the brain to the muscles.
There are two types of flexibility stretching: "static" flexibility stretching involves stretching a muscle for a certain length of time; and "dynamic" flexibility stretching focuses on slow or fast movements into stretched positions. The former is especially ideal for health flexibility for muscles and joints; while the latter, using multiple muscles and joints combined with neuromuscular coordination, is suitable for building coordination and strength.

If you wish to live longer with a better quality of life, you must continue to exercise. When you were young, you might have been very athletic and sportive. However, as you continue to age, you may have become less active physically: instead of participating in sports, you may have become only a spectator. Your sedentary lifestyle only reinforces your lethargy and sluggishness in everyday life. Even if you are busily engaged in running errands for your family, you are exercising only certain muscle groups of your body. You must exercise your entire body.  Go for Oriental exercises or flexibility stretching exercise. or both. Exercise for the elderly is a must!

Stephen Lau
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Friday, October 14, 2016

Letting Go to Live and Stay Well

To live well, one must ask questions about life; after all, life is about asking questions and finding answers throughout one’s life journey. True human happiness comes from human wisdom to ask the right questions and spiritual wisdom to get answers to the questions asked. Ask yourself one important question: Why wouldn't I let go of this attachment (just about anything)?

The human ego is composed of different attachments to the physical world, such as careers, emotions, memories, money, and relationships, among others. The human ego is unreal; it is only a distorted reflection of the real self. The human ego not only confuses the mind but also prevents it from finding out the realities about the self, others, and what is happening around. True human wisdom comes from knowing who you really are, not who you wish you were, and what you really need, not what you want or desire. Attachments are just emotional distractions in the mind from confronting changes in an ever-changing world. Let go of all attachments to see the absolute truths of all things.

The ancient Tao wisdom from China provides a blueprint for nourishing human wisdom: an empty mind with reverse thinking, mindfulness for clarity thinking, living in the present with no expectations of the future, no picking and choosing, accepting and embracing everything that comes in the natural cycle of change—what goes up must always come down. True human wisdom is the ability to understand that attachments are no more than distractions of the mind from letting go of anything that is impermanent.  

You are a two-in-one person: your ego-self and your spirit. They always co-exist and are in constant struggle with each other. The more attachments you have, the more assertive and dominant your ego-self is over your spirit, which provides spiritual wisdom to help you live in the material world.

The human flaw comes from attachments of the ego-self. To overcome this flaw, human wisdom alone may be inadequate; it requires the complement of spiritual wisdom, which is turning to the Creator with trust and obedience—that is, letting go to let God control the uncontrollable in life.

The Wisdom of Letting Go is a 111-page book that provides inspiration from ancient Tao wisdom to enhance human wisdom to believe in spiritual wisdom of letting go to live as if everything is a miracle.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, October 11, 2016

Natural Healing Is Self-Healing

Natural healing is self-healing, in which health and wellness are restored in the most natural way without suppressing the symptoms of any disease or disorder. It is a process of self-cure utilizing resources naturally available to the body, the mind, and the soul. Without the need to introduce foreign entitles to the body, the human body system itself is filled with natural defenses and antibodies adequate to help recovery from any form of disease.

The human body is made up of many different types of cells with many different types of molecules. Free radicals are molecules that contain unpaired electrons. Since electrons have a very strong tendency to co-exist in a paired rather than an unpaired state, free radicals may indiscriminately pick up electrons from other healthy molecules close by. This abnormal chemical reaction converts those otherwise “healthy” molecules into free radicals, thus setting up a chain reaction that can cause substantial biological damage to cells. Damaged cells are the underlying causes of diseases and disorders. 

Over the years, the body may have accumulated toxins from many different sources: pesticides and herbicides from agricultural products; Industrial wastes; exhaust fumes from factories and automobiles; polluted waters; Irradiation from use of cellular phones and towers, microwave ovens, power plants, radio satellite transmissions; food contamination; chemicals in food processing; toxic pharmaceutical drugs; toxic emotions and negative thoughts.

Pharmaceutical drugs are toxic chemicals. Use and abuse of pharmaceutical drugs, ironically enough, may impair health and lead to disease over the long haul. The bottom line: avoid the use of pharmaceutical drugs as much as possible, especially those over the counter. Remember, self-healing often does not happen immediately; you have to provide the optimum environment. So just be patient.

Internal cleansing is detoxification, which involves dislodging your body toxins and waste products from within and between cells and joints, and transporting these wastes from your body for removal. Fasting, which is voluntary abstinence from food and drink, except water, for an extended period, is natural internal cleansing and rejuvenation—one of the most efficient ways to detoxify the body of toxins. Fasting accelerates the self-healing process of the body because fasting temporarily stops the continuing work of the digestive system, as well as the liver and kidney, and therefore instrumental in reserving that internal life energy for natural healing. In addition, fasting benefits the cardiovascular system by softening blood vessels to help decrease blood pressure, and activates the immune system for disease prevention and protection.
Stephen Lau
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Thursday, October 6, 2016

Letting Go to Have an Empty Mind

In this day and age of speed and technology, it is easy to lose control over your life, leading to chaos and imbalance

How do you re-gain control over your life in terms of how you live your stressful daily life? It is not easy because most of us have a conditioned mindset that we must do this and do that in order to be happy and successful in life. In our subconscious minds, we want to do well, and to do well, we must set goals; to reach our goals, we must exert extra efforts. After accomplishing one goal, we need to set another higher goal, and yet another one higher than the previous one. In the end, our lives get more complicated and even out of control. As a result, our happiness becomes forever unattainable, and we have become the carrot-and-stick mule forever reaching out for the unreachable carrot in front while experiencing the pain of disappointment.  

According to Lao Tzu, the ancient sage from China, more than 2,600 years ago, we must have an empty mind first and foremost. What is an empty mind? An empty mind is letting go of any pre-conditioned thinking, such as extra effort may lead to success in any human endeavor.

According to contemporary wisdom, more is often better than less; and the more the better. This misconception has led to the belief of hoarding: people accumulate wealth -- much more than they could ever spend. This has also resulted in the development of a compulsive mind in contemporary living: people have too many goals and just not enough time to accomplish them; as an illustration, people talk on the phone while driving.

"Letting go is emptying the mundane,
to be filled with heavenly grace.
Blessed is he who has an empty mind.
He will be filled with knowledge and wisdom from the Creator.
Blessed is he who has no attachment to worldly things.
He will be compensated with heavenly riches.
Blessed is he who has no ego-self.
He will be rewarded with humility to connect with the Creator.
Blessed is he who has no judgment of self and others.
He will find contentment and empathy in everyone.
Letting go of everything is the Way to the Creator."
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 9 "Letting Go")

Don't believe what the media say about health issues and problems. Always have an empty mind to separate the myths from the truths. Remember, nobody knows your health better than yourself -- not even your doctor. Always empower yourself with knowledge and information so that you may have the wisdom to live your life as if everything is a miracle.

Stephen Lau

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Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Get My Book for FREE

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This 117-page is based on how I taught my daughter to read some 30 years ago. 

Like all proud parents, I was and still am proud of the fact that I could teach her how to read when she just turned three (most children learn at the age of five). The TV and all electronic devices may not be as effective as YOU, the parent, to teach your child through everyday intellectual interactions, games, and activities. 

This book provides 29 steps that could begin as early as your baby is one-month-old. My daughter became a proficient reader when she was five (reading books with little or no illustrations). By seven, she would not let me teach her anything -- she could find everything from books. It paid off and it's worth all the initial efforts in teaching her to become an early reader. Now she's an attorney in the United States.  I wrote this book because she has recently become a mother herself, and that's why I wrote this book to share my experience some three decades ago.

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Stephen Lau

Monday, October 3, 2016

Effort and Happiness

Good health is an essential ingredient in life. But life is meaningless and purposeless if happiness is absent. The truth of the matter is that many people are unhappy. So, the leading question is: what makes you happy?

It is also a myth that happiness is something that can be pursued with willpower and effort. The Bible rightly says that pursuing happiness is “like chasing the wind.” (Ecclesiastes 2:11)

Effort does not necessarily bring happiness; it only creates the illusion of an environment conducive to creating temporary happiness.

One may work diligently in one’s career to excel and to get to the top of the profession only to find that one has a terminal illness, or has incurred a debilitating accident. To illustrate, Joe Paterno the former Penn State football coach, whose reputation ruined by a sexual abuse scandal at the peak of his career, was fired, and died shortly of cancer; Steve Job, the co-founder of Apple computers, had his life cut short by pancreatic cancer at the height of his successful business career. Extra effort does not always pay off.

Pursuing happiness may be only a fantasy fueled by temporary moments of happiness, because aging, illnesses, misfortunes, and ultimately death plague all alike; in other words, impermanence cuts short all human efforts to bring happiness. We are all aware of the fact that impermanence is a leveler of everybody and everything, but many of us still choose to delude ourselves into thinking otherwise. Denial only fosters the myth that if there is a will there must be a way to attaining happiness, and that all it requires is human effort to make any dream come true.

The truth of the matter is that true happiness is, surprisingly, effortless, because it comes from within, and not from without; it is part of self, and is natural to human life and existence. 

According to Tao wisdom, the ancient wisdom of Lao Tzu, the sage from China more than 2,600 years ago, everything in this world follows a natural order, just like the four seasons. Therefore, greater effort does not guarantee happiness;  quite the contrary, the more effort you exert, the greater is the stress, which is the underlying cause of many diseases. 

My book shows you how to attain true human wisdom through asking self-intuitive questions, creating an empty mindset with reverse thinking to let go of the ego-self to become a better and happier you. The wisdom is based on the ancient Tao wisdom from Lao Tzu.

All in all, happiness is a moment-to-moment experience perceived by the human mind. It is not about extra effort; instead, it is about doing what needs to be done, with no expectation, accepting and embracing whatever that comes along. Spontaneity holds the key to the art of living well.

Stephen Lau
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Sunday, October 2, 2016

The Wisdom to Live Well

Life is always worth living if you have the wisdom to live well. 

Living your life is a learning process. Real learning, however, is not just the acquisition of knowledge. True wisdom is the ability to penetrate deeply into the meaning behind superficial knowledge, to integrate related thoughts, facts, and experiences into a structural framework that reveals a deeper, more synthesized meaning than what an ordinary person perceives. Wisdom is internal; it comes from the inner self.

Focusing on so-called goals in life, many of us lose our true selves in the pursuit of our dreams. If you are one of them, you must re-direct your life, and re-discover your "new" self, or never want to go back to your "old" life.

Albert Einstein once said: "A human being is part of the whole called by us 'universe,' a part limited in time and space. We experience ourselves, our thoughts, and feelings as something separate from the rest. A kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from the prison .

To free yourself from the self-imprisonment of self-delusions created by your self-consciousness, as pointed out by Albert Einstein. you must create a substantially new manner of thinking through the integration of conventional wisdom,  the ancient wisdom of Tao, and spiritual wisdom.

The Book of Life and Living is about the art of living well through understanding and embracing the wisdom of Tao in relation to conventional and spiritual wisdom—the ancient wisdom of Lao Tzu succinctly expressed in TAO TE CHING, one of the most translated works in world literature. 

To get the Amazon Kindle version of the book, click here; to get the paperback edition, click here.

Stephen Lau
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